I bet your mind is constantly working...I know mine is! Our minds are meant to think...and think, and think. Back in the day it kept us from getting eaten by monstrous wild animals!
But we don't need to be in survival mode any longer (I know, sometimes just grocery shopping feels like an act of survival).
Our thoughts often feel uncontrollable, random, and surprising (where did that come from all these years later?) but trust me, our minds CAN be redirected, and more importantly, need to be.
I'm not talking about clearing the mind or avoiding thoughts that pop in, that's virtually impossible.
But thoughts do trigger emotions, and those emotions have a profound effect on our mental, physical and spiritual well-being, both positively and negatively.
We can't control when a thought arrives (and sometimes they are truly inspiring, so notice them!), but we can decide- purposely choose- where to direct our focus.
We can choose to hop off the hamster wheel at any time.
Here are some tricks I use for myself and my clients when a thought or a memory starts circling in the brain, evoking strong emotions:
~Ask yourself, "Is this something I need to address?" meaning, is there an action or apology that needs to occur?
~If yes, consider how and when to take such action.
~If no, then acknowledge the emotion around it: "Wow, that was a sad moment," or "I regret that decision now."
(We are so wired to recall the uncomfortable or lower frequency emotions (survival mode) that those become the frequent flyers).
If and when that thought continues, redirect yourself with something from your toolbox.
Your toolbox is a collection of activities designed by you that will distract you from the circling thoughts:
~Exercise or a walk
~Chatting with an uplifting friend who can help put that emotion into perspective
~A fun movie
~Time with pets
Put that survival thought in its place. If it's not there to give you an action, then it's not worth spending any more emotional energy on it. Sometimes it takes a bit of practice, and that's ok, be gentle with yourself. But habits can be broken, and this one is freeing!
Our job now is to move forward uncovering our health, purpose, connections, strength, passion and loves, and not spend any more time than necessary in survival thoughts.
If you need support evolving with the energy of the times, please reach out, it's my life's work!
With much love as we do this together,
Intuitive Reiki Master/Teacher, "Body, Mind, Soul" Coach
(Disclaimer: I am not a licensed therapist. If you find yourself in a debilitating state or suffering from trauma, please seek supportive guidance).
As I'm sitting down to write, I can feel this message is going to be a difficult one for me to parse out. The energy around the feelings I've been experiencing have been nagging at me for several weeks, if not months. And now the "winds of change" are brewing as I'm literally being surrounded by 50 mph winds!
I've been distancing myself more and more from the word "spiritual," even though it is the crux of my mission and day-to-day work. Spirituality means: "Relating or affecting the human spirit or soul." Innocuous, right? How can you not buy into what affects our human spirit? Theoretically this means everyone is spiritual, not just those who have self-titled themselves as such.
If you are reading this, then chances are you know that my mission in life is to bring awareness to unity consciousness~what's good for you is good for all, we are all one~ but lately I'm finding myself tired. Not tired working with clients, not at all! They are my JOY! But tired with the way humans are finding satisfaction in criticizing and correcting each other, missing the point that what you do to others...well you know, ye olde Golden Rule?
Freedom of speech, our First Amendment here in the U.S., is designed to protect our right to express ourselves. Important? You bet. But we've completely obliterated unity consciousness in our quest to have the last word, or prove ourselves right, or feel better about our decisions, or exercise our right to "free speech," saying anything and everything that comes to mind often while hiding behind a computer screen.
Can you state your stance on a topic? Of course! But unity consciousness (what we do to one we do to all) is obliterated when we attack others for their beliefs or actions, especially on social media.
Will I support you if you are making a tough decision, say around abortion, end-of-life or whether to get vaccinated? Absolutely. Will I agree with you? Maybe, maybe not. But will I bash you or a stranger publicly for struggling with the decision and choosing what feels right? NEVER. I would never call you any of the thousands of names we are calling each other right now publicly, because I feel the repercussions of that name calling, and I see the emotional and mental effects it has on humanity.
Check the suicide rates.
And to my dismay, the spiritual and religious folks are often the public name-calling culprits, the finger-pointers and the decision-bashers. All these posts of sending "love and light and prayers" and then thoughtless meme sharing or criticism of the "sheeples" or the "unsaved" in the next moment...
I've even removed the word spiritual from my work title because I feel so alienated by the divisiveness.
It's chipping away at me, at us, body, mind & soul.
If someone's decision~individual or collective, like the government let's say~ causes you to get fired up to take action, real action that helps humanity, then go for it. Join the cause! Fight the good fight! But if it includes embarrassing, demeaning, de-humanizing, criticizing or condemning someone publicly,
Please stop. The emotional and mental health of those people matters.
We can't afford to lose little bits of our emotional soul any longer.
I'm always here to help and support you during your decision making and emotionally difficult times, but in the meantime, I'm going to log out of social media and find and focus on the causes that remain true to my heart...
For the good of the human spirit.
Live in love. Please.
What do you see in this picture? Do you see a poor, struggling seedling trying to survive in an inhospitable environment?
Or do you see hope for new life, a new life that's defying the odds and charting a new path in uncertain terrain?
Focus~perspective~is everything. Remember, WE create our reality.
We create this reality through our emotions. Some teachers say we create with our thoughts, but I don't see it that way. Our thoughts trigger emotions, or actions/reactions that create emotions, and that's our power tool for creation. Emotions.
So if you see a struggling-to-survive seedling in this pic, you may be invoking fear, anxiety, pity. Perhaps frustration. And those are definitely not emotions you want to create anything with.
If you see hope, a you-can-do-it attitude, then you are invoking optimism, perseverance, faith. All foundations to create something spectacular with.
So I encourage you to force yourself to be the glass-half-full kind of person. Don't resort to telling yourself, "This is the way I always am," or "It's impossible for me to see it any other way, I'm a pessimist." Those are the OLD stories, the things we've been led to believe through prior situations or told by other people in our lives.
Each and every day is a new creation, one where you get to choose.
Please choose consciously and with focus. Because perception is everything.
(If you have difficulty embracing any of these concepts, please connect with me on my
Empower app or in person, I'd love to help you cultivate optimism and joy in your life!)
Live in love,
For those of you new to my messages, my mission is to guide humanity to create out of inspiration, passion and joy and not out of emotional trauma (that's so very last-century!).
Today's message is about the small things. I mean the really small things.
Yesterday after shopping for some secret Santa gifts for the Salvation Army and delivering flowers to our church elderly, I was walking around the outdoor Promenade Shops looking for a few final gifts (it was impossible not to notice the reduced traffic and dozens of shuttered stores~the unfortunate sign of the times).
In fine holiday fashion, Yankee Candle had a great sale and I was musing about getting home from the long day out, lighting those candles and sitting back to watch the latest Hallmark movie (yes, I am one of those people who can watch Hallmark Christmas movies all year long!).
And then it hit me~ a moment of guilt. Yes, I get those too (the trick is to not hang onto that guilt for longer than that moment).
"How dare I want such frivolous things as candles and television when so many millions are homeless and hungry?"
And just as quickly, I tapped into the knowledge that I know are my truths:
~What is best for me (i.e: the frequency that makes me healthiest and happiest) is best for all.
~Energetic ripple effects do exist: my peace radiates out from me to trigger that "peace frequency" in others.
~My shrinking or thinking small does not allow others to think or dream bigger, we are in this together.
~Doing something good for the community to make me "feel better" is valid. We don't need to be martyrs in order to contribute meaningfully to our communities. Our "feeling better" is enough to trigger that much-needed "feel better" ripple effect.
~Nurturing my happiest and healthiest self will allow me to continue this work that I am meant to do, perhaps turning that ripple effect into a tidal wave...
I used that moment of guilt to my advantage, tapping into my truths to share them with all of you.
It's my wish that they resonate with you and that you continue to seek out what brings you peace and joy this holiday season because the small things do matter!
Live in love,
I know, I know, you're thinking, my god, haven't we had ENOUGH changes already?
But these changes are different. What has been occurring for the entirety of 2020 is the breakdown of the old. These aren't the changes (believe it or not).
These changes are going to be revolutionary. They are going to be created from thinking outside the box. They are going to address and solve issues we didn't even know we had. Much is going to be revealed to us all~ breaking down further what it is we thought we believed~ all in an effort to get us to create something new and spectacular!
(This is why it is critical that we don't spend any time or energy in "conspiracy theories" or trying to figure out "the truth." It will all be revealed when it is time, so there's no use getting angry about what is trying to peak out because that anger will only add to the dis-ease).
Part of what is occurring in the breakdown of structures is forcing our hand to decide what is important to us, where we want to place our emotional energy, and what no longer serves our souls or assists us on our journey.
If you take a moment to reflect, you will see the relationships or jobs or situations that are trying to fall away, either by "chance" or choice. Know that their purposes have either ended or are a catalyst for change within you.
Many of us are still working within these disintegrating structures: education, medicine, corporate, government, entertainment...It is imperative that you take care of yourself and not get swept up in the chaos or the emotions of the "old way of doing things."
We must be at our best to create and navigate the new that is getting ready to be birthed in 2021.
If you are sad, angry, fearful or frustrated, that isn't going to help us create, and it certainly is not going to help you stay dis-ease free.
Do not buy into the chaos. Do what you can with what you have to work with. Slow down. Breathe. Connect with friends (but don't spend time complaining). Watch a funny movie. Take two dollars and stick it in a jar for a rainy day whenever you can.
Don't watch the news. Cut the cable cord (it'll save you $$ too!). Laugh with your children (I promise you they won't get left behind in virtual school). Take a walk. Meditate with a free app. Listen to music. Join a group and search for lost pets. Write down your creative ideas and goals.
Because things are changing, I promise you. And they are going to be both bumpy AND fantastic at the same time.
But we need you ready to help. We need you to be balanced, peaceful and healthy.
Are you in?
As always, live in love.
If you need help navigating the changes in your life, please contact me for a 1:1 virtual or in-person session, or subscribe to my Patreon page for virtual healing and inspirational assistance. My mission is to guide us out of the chaos and into the new era!
This aphorism is thrown around all the time~ from New Age gurus and inspirational speakers, from the spiritual and religious communities, and with a plethora of memes from anyone just trying to get people to stop arguing on social media....
But what the heck does it mean? And why should we bother to "be the light?" Is it really going to matter? Can anything I do make a dent in the unrest that inhabits every corner of society?
The answer is a resounding YES!
And the reason you have to be the light? Because it causes a ripple effect. You may not see it, but energetically it's there. We can choose to be the light or be absent of light.
More importantly, it makes you feel better. And one less anxious, angry person gets us one step closer to compromise. To unity. To "what's good for you is good for me."
That's where we are headed and there's no turning back now. We've crumbled our systems.
Now go "be the light" because we can't create our new future without you.
Live in love,
PS: Having trouble finding your light? Please contact me for a 1:1 spiritual coaching session. We need you!
We see the divide. We feel it in every bone in our bodies, around every corner we turn. It seems endless and exhausting.
Ready to bridge it? I am. But first, here's how it won't work:
It won't work by trying to convince those on the other side of the divide that they are misled, mistaken, or misinterpreting.
In fact, no amount of convincing will do any good at all, so we all may as well stop trying. I have.
In other words, let's end the rhetoric on why Trump is good or bad, why we need or don't need a vaccine, whether or not we should send our kids to school...
You will never convince someone that their beliefs are "wrong" when the entire world is operating out of fear.
Please stop trying.
The only way someone's beliefs change is when they emotionally experience something for themselves. Notice that? For example, those who believed that the virus was a hoax changed their minds when they were emotionally impacted~ when they lost a loved one from the virus, for instance.
Nothing anyone ever said to them changed their minds. Because we are not in a mind game right now. Right now we are playing the emotional game.
And that's just the way it's supposed to be. The divide is the illusion to get us to join together as the human race.
That needs to be stated again:
The divide is the illusion to get us to join together as the human race.
Even those well-meaning folks who ask questions like, "What is one thing that the President has done to benefit humanity? I want to understand your perspective," are swimming upstream. Unless they have a personal, emotional reaction to an experience, they won't ever hear an answer that will convince them otherwise.
The way that we will bridge this illusory divide is to connect with people at the core of their humanity.
"How are you feeling?" "Tell me how your spouse is coping with everything?" "What have you done for fun lately?" "How can I help you?" "What amazing things has your toddler said recently?"
This is the new game in town...connecting with others on our shared experiences.
Living and loving as human beings.
You have permission to stop trying to convince. It's exhausting and pointless. Take a break. Not for our sake but for YOURS.
My work focuses solely on keeping our mind, body, emotions, and spirit balanced, and right now we are so out-of-balance that we can't even see it. But the after-effects are going to be enormous if we don't get a handle on it right now.
So take a break. Don't scroll or investigate or reply today. And tomorrow, start a new narrative:
"What can I do to help?"
"How is everyone feeling?"
"I love you."
Let's start joining the only race that matters. The human race.
Live in love,
Please, if you find yourself struggling, I am available for in-person and 1:1 intuitive Reiki and spiritual life coaching sessions to help you re-charge, start fresh and stay healthy. Contact me.
It's impossible to ignore all of the things that are dividing humanity right now, isn't it?
Politics, race, bureaucracy, government officials, laws, social media, school scheduling, medical care...Even a simple five-inch square of cloth.
A five-inch square of cloth.
Are you exhausted yet? I know I am.
But there's a cure. A very simple cure. And it doesn't start with the government or a vaccine or social media advertising or anything at all that is "outside" of us.
It starts and ends with YOU. And me. All of us, together.
Are you ready to know what it is? Ready to commit to the solution? Here it is:
Accept everyone for what they believe and where they are. That's it.
No "buts:" But their decisions will hurt me or my family. But their beliefs aren't what's best for the country...
No "buts." Period.
We are in a quest right now to unify humanity. And the way to do this is to allow everyone to believe what they need to believe and create their own journey. Every fear or law or conspiracy theory or government official (or not).
You do you. You follow what your heart is saying is right for you and let everyone else worry about themselves. You can't convince or change anyone. They must choose their experience for themselves.
You can't do it for them.
None of us really knows what's going on right now, but this I do know:
We must bridge the divide.
Healers, therapists, medical professionals, educators~ I'm asking you to go first. Stop antagonizing "the other side." Stop trying to sell your point on liberalism or conservatism or vaccines or pro-choice or whatever it is you believe.
Accept. Extend the olive branch. Stop posting argumentative or antagonizing diatribe. In your heart you know what it is doing to humanity. Look there.
Reach out and have these tough conversations with friends and family personally if you feel called, but please, please, become part of the solution to unifying humanity.
It's time. We're counting on you.
Live in love,
Having trouble navigating anger and fear? Please call me to schedule a session. I'd like to help.
Now that the human race has slowed to a crawl, I hope that you see what I see...
~People are collecting food and offering it for free.
~Restaurant owners are feeding needy children and families.
~Clients and patrons are supporting small business owners, even while said businesses are closed.
~Parents are schooling each other's children.
~Teachers and professors are quickly adapting to new technology to reach their students.
~Independent contractors are offering their services via the internet.
~Religious organizations are providing services online to reach anyone who wants to view.
~Massive caring for the Earth is underway: from cleaning up to gardening to feeding and caring for wildlife.
Do you see what has happened?
We are figuring out how to provide and care for each other and the earth, despite the apparent constraints placed upon us.
Now, here comes the good part! In spite of appearances, we are no longer at the mercy of corporations or the government. Banks have to listen to us. Insurance companies have to listen to us. Government officials' hands are tied until they begin an open dialogue with us because we aren't buying the narrative any longer.
Don't you see? We ARE the corporations and the government. It's not "us against them," it's WE.
Don't wait for some massive government package to restart the economy or dictum for corporate conglomerates to arrive.
It starts with us. This movement has been kickstarted for us, now it's our turn to do something with the opportunity!
Everything has become quite transparent, hasn't it? If you are disturbed, for instance, by the dividends the insurance companies are paying out while simultaneously raising their rates, respectfully voice your concerns (you may be surprised at the outcome. I was).
Phone the candidates who are running for office (be bipartisan!) and have respectful conversations with them about their vision for change. Express what you want to see happen and how they align with your vision.
What are YOU going to suggest to your boss or board of directors when things return to "normal?" Do you want to offer online services? Work from home? Create an app for clients to reach you easily? Create a new outreach department?
What social services do you want to create? Garden shares? Market drop-offs? Programs to funnel leftover food from restaurants and stores to shelters and centers? Start creating! Talk to your colleagues and friends. Find the gaps. Solve the problems.
Discuss with your healthcare professionals ways that they are reaching out to those impacted by lack of insurance or access...brainstorm with them what your vision of effective healthcare is. Ask them to collaborate with their colleagues. Check back in with them.
What benefits or downfalls have your children experienced by learning with you? What insights do you now have regarding education? Talk with the PTA. Brainstorm with teachers. I guarantee they feel the same way you do. Boards of directors are there for a reason. Become involved.
Demand inspires the supply. Don't wait for some government agency to create it or a new president to take over.
WE are the agents of change, we always have been, we've just been asleep. Now that we're awake, let's get humanity to work!
Why? you ask. Why viruses? Why political divisiveness? Why world turmoil? Why do "bad things happen to good people?" Why, why, why? Surely we are victims...we didn't ask for this, right?
My mission in life (and my actual job) is to offer new perspectives on life's traumas and experiences~and the emotions that come with them~to help us become happier and healthier humans.
And I'd like to offer a perspective on this WHY question...and as always, you can take what resonates and leave the rest.
Our job as 3D beings is to fully experience emotions. We're the only ones who can do it like we do~full body reactions to powerful emotions. And that's OK! That's one of our missions in life, to feel these emotions. That's why it is so very important that we don't try to mask these emotions with drugs, legal or otherwise. We've got to feel them, learn how they affect our bodies and then move on with them.
But we've reached a turning point in our story. We've felt every emotion, especially those more challenging ones, time and time again, for millennia. Many of us are ready for a new story.
Collectively though, we are still choosing to experience these deeper, more traumatic emotions. Things like viruses and political divisiveness are attempting to trigger those emotions in us, particularly the lower-vibrating ones like fear and powerlessness.
Is it working for you? Are you triggered?
Now, create the new story. Recognize that that is exactly what is happening, and choose to NOT be triggered. Choose to be happy and healthy despite what appears to be happening in the world.
Request in your prayers or meditations or silent walks or however you detach and ground, that the collective no longer chooses traumatic experiences to bring out the best in ourselves or each other. You know, the giving of money or "thoughts and prayers" or the countless other ways we try to help in traumatic situations.
Traumatic situations can also cause us to sit home in fear glued to the news. Please don't do that.
Allow the best of you to shine through in every single situation you encounter, without adding to the collective's request for a catalyst of trauma to do so.
If you need help navigating these emotions, ending the cycle of monkey-mind, or want to feel lighter with a sense of purpose, contact me. If you have questions about the energies that are flying around us~ the talk of 3D/4D/5D~ contact me, I can explain them.
Most of all, do your best to live everyday with the goal of affecting others with your light, your positivity, your love, despite what appears to be happening "out there."
Live in love,
Carrie, with a lot of Spiritual guidance!