I've been searching for months now. Searching for the common denominator for why people hold fear, anxiety, guilt, remorse and anger. Certainly we don't want to hold these, do we? I mean, who in their right mind would enjoy experiencing these emotions on a daily basis?
So why is it that so many people are fearful, impatient, angry or frustrated for a good portion of their days? We see it in the grocery store line, in traffic, at our jobs and most especially on the internet.
We are quick to bash another's opinion or post a negative business review (much quicker than posting a positive!). We immediately jump to: "They are wrong!" or "How could this happen to me?" and up flares the frustration, anger and fear. Lots of times we aren't able to let it go as quickly as it came up...we swim in it for hours or days, sometimes even weeks.
Anxiety, fear, guilt and frustration are isolating. They make us want to retreat from the world. They cause us to believe that we are separate from each other, and separate from God.
"I am right, they are wrong." Or worse yet, "They are right, I am wrong."
And the root cause is...?
We, humanity, have forgotten how to love ourselves unconditionally. We have forgotten that we are the creators of our reality and that everything that happens to us happens because we have chosen to experience it.
We are quick to judge ourselves. We reprimand ourselves for not being good enough or strong enough or smart enough or healthy enough. We compare ourselves to our co-workers, family members and random strangers on Facebook.
We have forgotten that we are OK just the way we are (no matter what our parents have told us, or our bosses, or our kids). We have forgotten that God doesn't make mistakes, and nothing about us is a mistake. We were given free will for a reason:
To declare who we are and how we love.
We aren't going to be punished for the decisions we make in figuring this out so there's no sense in punishing yourself. On a soul level, we have chosen our incidents and experiences as ways to show us what is important in life or as arrows for the next fork in the road.
Do we make mistakes? Absolutely. Fix them and move on. You are human and that's part of the beauty of being human. We can reverse course, change our actions, change our minds. It's part of the adventure!
Have your isolated yourself from the world? Do you know someone who has? Rejoin the human race. Give permission to someone else to rejoin the race. Because it's not the human race, it's the human walk. There are no winners and no losers. Everyone gets a participation medal and everyone crosses the finish line.
That medal comes from YOU. It's not a stamp of approval from your family or boss or even God. It comes from within. It comes from knowing that you did the best you could with what you had to work with at the time.
It's called living.
And when you love yourself unconditionally, with all your flaws and foibles, you'll never want to harm yourself or another.
Realize that you are the creator of your adventure and,
Live in love.
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